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The Impact You Can Make


You Have the ability right now to make an impact on the people around you-

making an impact as a small business woman-panama city beach

What kind of impact do you want you or your business to have on people? If i could really narrow it down- i want my business to change women’s minds on money, success, and confidence. Especially on Instagram i give tid bits of advice and although i’m still learning- my shelves of books, endless journals, conferences, relationships, and hard work have lead me to some knowledge and insight that i want to always give back and share. So although ill always continue for more education and digging deeper, i’m finally gaining the understanding that even where i’m at i have something to help heal people too. And for me, that’s been absolutely refreshing. I don’t have to be 75 with a life filled of experiences to make an impact, i can start now and by now i mean.. about 5 years ago when i started making these goals for my business and personal life.

In all of this to say, we all have something to offer and we can always learn something from each person we come across. Be quick to listen to their story, absorb their information and if they’re wanting and able to absorb what you have to offer, give back as much as possible.

my areas of impacting men and women?- it comes from my experiences and passions in life. We don’t have to be stuck where we are with money, success means more than just climbing a corporate ladder, and if you have the confidence- you’ll have exactly what you need to design your life, money, and success. You need only to figure out what a dream life looks like, and day by day, habit by habit, make it happen. It’s absolutely in the daily baby steps to achieve those goals you have. Many more details on how to make that happen to come.

Today, start with purchasing a journal that you love. whether that means cheap, bound leather, girly, an inspiring quote etc. Then open it up and take some sticky notes- one write down goals for the year, one sticky note with goals for long term. one for how much per month you’ll put in a savings account (please refer to my Instagram under tips for that) and if you have a small business that’s not quite up and paying you regularly- get a sticky note for how much you’re paying yourself each month. and one more for donations towards a church or something you believe in (currently mine’s a dog shelter i volunteered at). Each time you open that journal, take a second to look at the things you want for your life and what you’re doing to help in the meantime, a reminder to change daily habits to do things FOR those goals.

“it’s the first step, getting out the door- that’s the toughest. if you can do that, you’ve already won.”

Keep Shining

Shanna Star



Few books I recommend! please click on these links so I know if they’re helpful for you!



the answer to your question is to turn inward.

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Today i got the question: what are some good books to read for a woman who has been deeply hurt by multiple men? My immediate answer is to work on you (not just books about men), and find books and activities that cultivate joy in your life. The only thing you can do in those situations is strengthen your confidence, realize your value, work on your weaknesses, and learn how to better communicate and articulate your needs and wants all while still serving your future partner. Many women (and men too) have been in such damaging relationships it leaves us feeling a yearning for someone that “fit us” that are our “soul mate” and how a man will see the value in us in the future. While it’s true, we do need a man who’s going to have our best interest at heart the only thing you can control is your growth and value in yourself. Women have this incredible (and sometimes scary accurate) intuition and the more we work on ourselves the more we become connected to.. well.. bullshit in others. Being as i have dealt with some crap too, the best thing i did was forgive.. like truly forgive and want the best for that person and really continue to see the things in myself that need work to be a better woman. I’m not putting all the action on the woman that we MAKE a better man, i’m saying we should make ourselves the best, let go of the hurt (i know i know.. that sucks when we want them to see us as something they lost.. but that’s such a selfish way of thinking. time to forgive so you can be happy and want them to be too.) and do the work to know ourselves in and out so when the man comes along that captures our heart, we can see through issues and even have a better relationship from the get go, and also not bring up hurts from another relationship; those are ours to deal with, not our future partner’s.

It’s true and i’ve believed it for years and seen it for myself that men actually do hear our complaints about HOW to love us but unless it’s a marriage.. cause i still believe to FIGHT for it until it can’t be saved.. the best thing is to leave it. All of those things we want him to do, i’ve seen them turnaround and do it for someone else. Honestly i’m thankful i can say i’m happy i had some kind of affect with no resentment towards the past. Basically they hear it, but unless they want it to work and they feel the same, no amount of teeth pulling, whining, crying, and desiring is going to shape him up unless he wants to be in relationship- with- you shape. It’s easy to point and blame others but looking inward is the real win here. Iinner growth hurts and i think that’s why a lot of people don’t do it.

So not to complete disregard the first question. So what are some good books? i’ll always suggest Captivating by Stasi Eldredge, it’s an amazing start to healing our feminine hearts, opening up to be vulnerable and seeing value in the woman you are. A more recent read is Don’t Forget your Crown by Derrick Jaxn, a male’s perspective on toxic and healthy relationships and just a great little book that brought tears to my eyes i have a dozen more but those are some great ones to start with. But i am encouraging you to sit down with an open heart, and start to journal as you breathe in the words.

“Without self-love, no love matters. It can be poured into, but still broken.”- Derrick Jaxn

ya’ll messaged me and let me know some affiliate links would be something you’d like to see! so if you click these and purchase them directly, my code is embedded so I get credit (just like all those other people you click from!) i’d appreciate it! thank you!

-Keep Shining

Shanna Star

Giving myself Permission to add to the conversation

I stopped the personal posts for a while. Not because I didn’t have anything to say.. as if that could ever happen. But I had to rearrange my mindset. In the midst of the many changes going on here in Panama City Beach both personal and professionally, it took a toll on my mind. I had to get back to the place where I gave myself permission to add to the conversation again. Of all the advice and opinions from experience, books, and growth I started to lose the permission I gave myself to give advice to you. I recently read a little quote “i’m a contributor not a guru” and in its simplicity I felt compelled to write again. I felt ABLE to write again. 31, divorced, no kids, I may not have some of the same experiences. But moving across country alone, starting over, confidence, finances, business building, self-worth, and LOTS of learning has given me insight that for some reason I took away from myself. I may not be taking the same path as you (but man all of our lives are vastly different anyway!) and I really do love the life i’m designing.. yes DESIGNING myself. I have four jobs and building a business and a name here in a new place, but today on my lunch break I went out to the pool. It’s those small things that I always wanted. It’s not at all how I imagined it, it’s better. Currently sitting in my big comfy bed in between other work tasks, and so incredibly thankful that I can sit here and say the difficulties lead me where I am, and i’m happy.

mindset is everything- Panama City blog

We can all love our lives. isn’t it wonderful that each of us can have a little secret of happiness that the life we’re living is the one for us. I love where I am, what i’m doing, and although it’s been difficult, i’m giving myself permission again to add to the conversation. I have a lot more to learn, but these past few years have filled me with a lot of knowledge and experience.

Secret to success no matter what it is?- it’s mindset. You may have difficult days, hard months, or even years. But your mindset will push you through. “Fear is normal, understandable and inevitable.. but it’s not a good excuse to stop pursing your designed life.” (Denise Duffiled- Thomas)



Keep Shining

Shanna Star

What makes you shine?

“Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive and go do it because that’s what the world needs is people have come alive.”- Howard Thurman.

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Starting reading my next book and love that already inspired feeling. It sets me on fire for what my passions are. And more than anything, I want that feeling for you, but I stated in one of my newest blog posts how that will look vastly different for each one of us. Not every one desires the same things I do, aside from I assume sitting in Panama City Beach, bikini on, holding a girly drink and basking in the sun. No? fine switch it to wine, maybe more of you will be on board. Passions and dreams don’t have to turn your world on its side or look like a completely new life far away, ditching the one you’ve built, but it doesn’t mean your dreams are any less important or worthy to be fought for. I truly believe we all have desires that were purposely placed in us and things we should go after, it’s the things that make us come alive. If you’re not sure of any of that exists in you, it’s time to dig deep and find those little sparks! They’re in all of us, we just have to discover or rediscover them

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Do you know why one of my passions is for other women to find theirs and to feel alive? I want to see more strong women and as become stronger, it just ignites that fire!- And here’s a little reminder to all of those putting off their dreams, goals, passions, desires… “Excuses don’t make strong women.” dang and ouch. We can talk the talk for years about what we want: careers, vacations, side hustles, hobbies, but the real no BS thing is this.. excuses don’t make you strong. I know there is a time for everything and i’m immensely aware of patience and getting through some hardships, but as someone who struggled with anxiety and depression and then went through a divorce, moved across the country and started over with no friends… I don’t really want to hear excuses. sorrynotsorry. Do you know what makes you strong? I mean that girly drink and relaxation time from above IS needed, rest in general and just existing is enough some days, I get it. But what will make you strong and learn and grow is going after the things you love. Whether it’s a side hustle of a new hobby, or finally jumping into a career you’re nervous as heck about. Life is way too short to keep waiting for the right time, because if you keep waiting for the right time.. it’ll never come. We’ve got to make it happen. I’m not saying overload yourself with being “busy” i’m talking about being productive. Baby steps are inevitable, and it will take some work and maybe some frustrations, but it’s so worth it when you feel your heart racing and you know you’re shining from the inside because you’re talking about YOUR passions.You are doing the things you’ve talked about for years.

I want more strong women because I feel strong. I have weak days and insecure days don't ever think I don’t, but I know who I am, what I want, and I am taking the steps towards it. It feels amazing to know the things set in my heart.. my purpose, are things i’m doing. It builds us stronger to fail (oh and I do! but it’s not even failing, just learning) and move towards our goals. I desperately want that for every woman so the young girls will grow up knowing what strong women look like too, but you have to want it for yourself. So tell me, what’s holding you back when you can be shining brightly?


Keep Shining

Shanna Star

For the Moments i feel faint

I was hurting and constantly upset I don’t mean the once in a while or caused by ever changing hormones, I mean my life was stuck in this seemingly never ending darkness and I couldn't get out. If you know me, you know i’m optimistic. I mean hell, even through immense pain I could see that I could use it in the future for good. I could always stand tall and get through whatever crap.. forget it i’m swearing ..shitstorm headed my way. and believe me, I had a lot of those the last few years. i’m pretty sure I lost very important inches in my height because of how stressed I was. I got to my lowest point.. no not depression and the lack of showers I took for months on end, and no not anxiety that would cause my to have to pull over because I couldn’t breathe. I got to the point where I said to a close friend..”I don't think it’ll ever get better.” and for me, that was the lowest I could get. Because my whole character seemed to be shifting and my beliefs. I couldn’t see my hard work and persistence paying off (even though for once I was being patient and continuing) I continued on through those words, tears daily, darkness and lack of optimism. Lack of self-confidence, and slowly getting worse. I can’t say exactly what changed it. I think it was a multitude of things working together. I kept working hard in my business, I kept reading and journaling to lift me up even for a second, I went to the gym (not as much but I went) I tried feeding my body healthy food with the occasional chips because… happiness, I talked with a few close friends and of course my mom daily who are constants in my life, and maybe it was finally getting through some of the toxic parts where I could see a bit of sunshine again.

we may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated

i’m telling you this with a very specific purpose. I write about women and self love, how to get healthy, and self care. I speak it with intention because i’ve been on the other side. More than most people even would care to hear about my entire life (movie-worthy or as a counselor once told me.. a reality show) story. As things keep coming my way, i’m finally to a place again where I think “well damn, I guess I can use this in the future too as an experience to connect with women.” I don’t mean to skip past the hard parts just to encourage you to keep going. Those hard parts in life SUCK and I know exactly how it feels to think it’s going to last forever. But I tell you to keep going because it’s the only way to see the sunshine again. It might take a few years, and I know hearing that sucks too. But you have the strength to get through it… but just don’t do it alone. I’m not going to give you the ol “it’ll get better” speech completely, because sometimes we just need to be acknowledged that sometimes things aren’t going your way. but if you can see a few peeks of the sunshine here and there, it’ll keep you going. That’s why I push to find people you trust, to seek out a counselor, to read and journal, and to exercise. Those are the things from not only my experience but that have been proven by studies to help healthy minds and bodies. There’s no reason to try on your own. Absolutely let yourself be sad, allow yourself to feel, but then reach out and slowly start your way to a path that eventually you can see some light. Maybe not today. Maybe today you eat a donut and take a bath. But the only way to recover is to act. And honestly, that sucks sometimes too. But if I know anything, it’s that after the days where you allow yourself to have a pity party, you need the rising up, strength filled, overcoming days and those have to be fought for. And you can do that, I have no doubt.

“We may encounter many defeats” that take us down and hold us back, “but we must not be defeated.”

Keep Shining

Shanna Star

***extra points to those who know my title reference to a little band called Relient K. It’s a song. and maybe it’ll encourage you too.”For the moments I feel faint.”